<p>Many teenagers that are are heavy marijuana users are also dual-diagnosed, and sometime even triply diagnosed. I wonder if this could be part of OPs son’s problem. IMO, he should be taken for an in-patient psychiatric evaluation, where he would stay on premises anywhere from a few days to a week, and let the professionals see if in addition to ADD, he may also be suffering from depression, bi-polar, PTSD from some earlier or unknown incident, ODD, even early onset schizophrenia – all conditions that often cause teenagers to self-medicate. </p>
<p>These evaluations may or may not be covered by your insurance, but I’d say its worth it to get one even if it’s not. His actions sound far more serious than just the restlessness or scatter-brained stuff of ADD, or school unhappiness. And it will be impossible to determine the best educational course for him until you get a diagnosis you can trust. (Which is also difficult to do on an out-patient basis while he is getting high regularly). You must put his health first right now as you only have two years to seek control over that. Afterwards it becomes much more difficult. </p>
<p>Our son’s behavior in high school was similar and very bad – at one point we had to kick him out of the house things were so unmanageable. He eventually got a diagnosis of bi-polar depression – after some serious scrapes with the law-- was put on the appropriate medication, and he’s doing fine now living in a psychiatric half-way house which we expect him to leave soon and finish college. </p>
<p>Take care of yourself, your marriage, and your kid. It is hard. But take the time and expense to get the deepest professional evaluation you can, and that will guide you in figuring out his educational choices. </p>