OverwhelmedMom2, if you’re still reading this thread–see if you can find an “educational consultant” in your area. These are professionals who can evaluate your child academically, psychologically, behaviorally and socially, and then suggest the best school placements for him or her. This can cover anything from local schools to boarding programs, from students with single issues to those with many. The big downside is the cost–several thousand for the evaluation–but if you’re contemplating a Utah-like program you’re looking at much higher costs anyway.
We worked with a consultant with one of our children (now a freshman at a four-year LAC). It was immensely helpful–the school wasn’t a perfect academic fit, but it gave our kid an enormous amount of support, and that’s what she really needed.