<p>As someone who is also spending a lot of money relative to their net worth to send their child to USC, I would lay down clear expectations and if he doesn’t live up to them, stop paying for USC. </p>
<p>Some kids (and I’ll be sexist and say more boys (my third is a freshman this year)) take a while to really grow up. If you have too much money to get much help from USC and not enough that 200K for four years isn’t a big deal to you then you shouldn’t have to subsidize his growing up with that sum of money. Learning this lesson now is a lot better for him than to continue down this path for a year or two. And you are certainly being fair.</p>
<p>I agree that he should be wearing out the paths to the professors and any other resources that are available to help and my understanding from most universities is that the resources available generally exceed the students who put in the effort to seek them out. </p>
<p>He will right himself at some point I am sure, but if he isn’t ready to take advantage of what USC has to offer then I wouldn’t subsidize his partying. He can do that while working at UPS.</p>