To be honest with you, the general consensus is that it’s easier being a GDI girl than a guy, but if you’re outgoing and involved on campus (especially more high profile/visible student orgs like VSG, VPB, VUcept, Tour guides etc), it shouldn’t be an issue making friends and having a good social life. There are other fraternities you can join, like business/service/honor fraternities which aren’t the typical social fraternities. I think @Faline2 might be a better resource for your question because her son went to Vandy and wasn’t in Greek life.