Tea Totaler- I had never heard this expression. So it means they just aren’t interested in that lifestyle. That would be my D. Hopefully she will be fine. I want to make sure you tell your kids to always be careful with what they are served to drink at parties. I know that some people will try to take advantage of them. I witnessed it when I went to school. I always stayed sober to keep an eye on my roommates. One time a guy tried to drag my roomie upstairs and we had a tug of war with her. It was unreal. Good thing I was there with her. Our other roommate got killed drinking and driving. It was devastating.