<p>“No one in USNA admissions tells parents they shouldn’t be involved” Oh indeed they did, sorry there were others that missed that portion at the admission brief. This was also made quite clear by the reps at Academy day and the BGO. I also found this on the other fourm and doing some research it would appear to me that the BGO moderators say the same. </p>
<p>“Let’s hope this lack of parental effort is not the difference between their children receiving appointments… or not. Wondering whether you could/should have done more after the fact is often a hard thing to live.” This is funny… it might be a good idea not to insult anothers regarding parental efforts. Be careful!! There is no suggestions to others only statements of what has been communicated again by the admissions brief, the BGO, the MOC reps… Could not agree with them more. "Lets hope that these leaders of our Naval fleet do not rely on their parental efforts to make a command when the situation is hot in the middle of the big pond. Been there…and thankfully we did not have a melting pot of a leader! </p>
<p>If my DS does not make it in, it will be because of “his own efforts” and not ours. No matter what anybody feels that failure is critical and important. There is no shame in failure it becomes your greatest accomplishmnets. Why would I let him not getting in bother me? Very simple. It’s not my journey! I can see parents that live vicarious through their kids having the “hard thing to live” issue. The only thing I will wonder about is when he will leave for his “C” plan college. He can reflect on his own thoughts and as he said he will apply again. And again we will only support not help. </p>
<p>My only thought on this forum was to “try” to be positive and “share” some thoughts on my DS journey. At no time was it forced that others “had” to follow these thought leads. Do as you please. There are always three sides to a story.</p>
<p>GoNavy95 - Thank you, your thought just sumed up everything we heard at the admissions brief, the BGO, the MOC reps and least I forget the guidance given to parents in the book I read. My DS has the passion I can assure you he has done his research and now knows things about the Academy life we don’t. He even drives us to the brink with the Academy expectations, facts, and information on the communities he hope to soon learn more about at dinner. He was also recited the honor code and mission statement one night just to make us all aware he knew it. This was also his personal choice. He is also happy that we stayed out of it. As a Navy veteran without even knowing you I’m confident you will be a strong leader and create a great command. From a veteran snipe…hit the pit, haze gray, underway!! You will do quite well!</p>