My gut says Wake would be a better fit for you but I don’t know you!
Wake is a bit more conservative. Colgate, while rural, feels more in the orbit of NYC (even compared to other northern LACs.)
Climate is different, size is different. My guess is that he’d find his people at Wake, however he evolves. Colgate feels like it might be a bit tougher if the pieces aren’t falling intonplace for him.
With that said, both are great schools, so it’s really about fit rather than “better”.