<p>Anomaly to the study: long time happily married to a kind, gorgeous hunk (who has no clue he is one).</p>
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<p>That’s because marriages that are happy do not have problems, period.</p>
<p>Problems with money are not necessarily that there is too little but that the husband and wife don’t agree about how to spend it or save it or earn it.</p>
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<p>That sounds like the best kind of gorgeous hunk you got there!</p>
<p>well columbia student, you already divulged your gender.</p>
<p>I never lied. What make you think I’m not a guy?</p>
<p>^ Just a hunch. I think the word ‘cute’ had something to do with it.</p>
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<p>I hope my son has her genes.
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<p>Simba: are you and I married to the same woman? Do we have the same son? Are we doppelgangers?</p>
<p>Dadofsam, stop ganging up on those doppels.</p>
<p>“dop·pel·gäng·er or dop·pel·gang·er (dŏp’əl-gāng’ər, -gěng’-) Pronunciation Key
n. A ghostly double of a living person, especially one that haunts its fleshly counterpart.”</p>
<p>My son would say I haunt him.</p>
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I think he made it all the way across this time. He made his mark. Paid all his dues long ago. He’s entitled. Godspeed, TheDad. You made this a better place. ;)</p>
<p>This thread cracks me up. :)</p>
<p>I guess I have the outlier marriage. 27 years, but H is better looking. He’s a tiny bit older than me but looks younger. I told him I’d divorce him the first time someone thought he was my son. That actually happened 5 years ago. But since it was an old lady (bad eyesight? dementia?) and H’s back was turned, I’m pretending it didn’t happen. </p>
<p>I do think, though, that H would disagree with me about being better looking, and perhaps that is why I keep him. Or it might be the coffee he brings me in bed every single morning of our marriage (minus business trips). Don’t mean to brag … just thinking it through.</p>
<p>He brings you coffee? In bed?? Every single morning???</p>
<p>I’m lucky if I get tossed a spoon for my yogurt on Mother’s Day. :(</p>
<p>Once, when he was out of town, he tried to teach my S to make my coffee. But S got the salt and sugar mixed up.</p>
<p>But yes, coffee every morning. I am not a morning person. He figured out that life is better for all of us if I get the caffeine in as early as possible.</p>
<p>hmmm…I have 3 data points:
first marriage to a nerd (I was better looking) ended in divorce which I initiated after 13 years and two kids…
second marriage to a guy of equal attractiveness also ended in divorce which he initiated.
now dating an absolute hunk (my friend calls him my “boy toy”)…but guess what? I am not that interested in getting married again! and yes, I do have to watch it, women fall all over him and he isn’t immune to it, but he says he loves me because I am kind and care about others
not sure how all that fits into the study…
I do think, as in my first marriage, an attractive women could get very bored with a less attractive, nerdy guy unless he brings something really special into the mix.</p>
<p>I used to be the better-looking one, but various health issues have definitely reversed the trend. Dh still thinks I’m gorgeous, however, so that’s what matters. I’m the lucky one. <em>heart</em></p>
<p>I’ve always been the attractive one in our marriage. He still gets the “THAT’S your wife?” thing and has always laughed about it. Hubby was a super-star athlete when we met and was (and remains) popular, funny and level-headed. He’s treated me like a princess for more than 25 years and I absolutely adore him for it. He needs to pamper and fuss over me and I need to accept that! We’ve had our ups and downs, but I couldn’t imagine ever finding another man as attractive as my chubby bald guy.</p>
<p>From reading the title of this thread, I don’t think it says men are more likely to date women better looking than they are, but those who do have happier marriages. </p>
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<p>Incorrect statement. This has nothing to do with your biological sex but your sexual orientation.</p>
<p>Also, beauty is not in the eye of the beholder. We, humans, tend to be universal in what physical features we find attractive.</p>
<p>There was a story in The Atlantic on this.</p>
<p>Also:
[Baby</a> study suggests beauty is not in the eye of the beholder | Science & Consciousness Review](<a href=“http://sci-con.org/2005/09/baby-study-suggests-beauty-is-not-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/]Baby”>http://sci-con.org/2005/09/baby-study-suggests-beauty-is-not-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/)</p>