Sorry, seeing someone else’s underwear in the kitchen sink is kind of repulsive, whether it’s clean or not, or your side or not.
Making a mistake once is one thing, but leaving your stuff in the dryer for someone else to deal with again and again is annoying. Not ever taking out the trash is just as annoying as never sweeping. Saying that you don’t care what someone else is dealing with is pretty rude since you also seem to have excuses for the inconsiderate stuff you do.
Things won’t get better if you both don’t cut the snark, really listen to each other. and then try to do the right thing. Sometimes someone has to be the bigger person to get the ball rolling. If you forget, apologize. Say “I’m really sorry you had to deal with that.” And mean it. If you keep trying your best but she doesn’t reciprocate maybe then you will have room to complain. But try to be the grownup in the room the way you respond.
I once had two other housemates. We divided the house chores into three more-or less equal divisions and rotated who did what every week so no one had to be stuck with the same chores. Maybe you could do something like that with the sweeping and the trash. And whoever forgets her job that week has to buy the other roommate dinner (or whatever you decide). But really, nothing will work if you both want to act like jerks with each other.
I halfway think this is a joke thread. Is this real? Or are college students this immature?