I don’t think they are trying to get rid of things. They just built a big house a few years ago.
I still thinking on it. Wedding is Aug 8th so I have a least a week until I have to decide as whatever I get I want it to get them before the wedding.
As someone who just celebrated her 50th birthday, all this talk of dentures and elderly people dropping things is depressing me! She said they are 50, not 90!
Do you know their style at all? The wooden wine glasses are not my cup of tea at all (and I love wood-those particular glasses are just not appealing to me-I think it was the white stems that throw me off). So, I’ll agree with @busdriver11 , that what really counts is whether or not you think the recipients will like the gift, not that you do. I have most appreciated gifts when it was clear that a person really had made an effort to pick out something that they knew I would like.
Hey, you don’t have to be 90 to lose your teeth, your mind, and drop things, nottelling. It’s already starting!
There are also a goodly # of older folks who have all their own teeth, so a lot depends onthe care one takes of original equipment. I’m seeng my dentist regularly and getting frequent cleanings from the hygeinist so I can have the best possible dental health–am flossing and using the recommended electric tooth brush as well (tho am not such a fan of the water pik–one more step).
I saw a link on the severe memory loss thread that addresses electric flossers. I think I might get one of those, as they sound really easy to use. I have to have a dental implant on Monday, so maybe I’m losing my teeth one by one.
The stems are either glass or aluminum. I would get the glass stems.
I have no idea what his tastes are. She is pretty eclectic.
@emilybee , You seem to really like these glasses , so if you think your friend would like them as well, you might just want to order them and be done with it!
I see the engraved champagne flutes more than just another thing to acquire. I see it as a meaningful memento. I know I would find it special and would use them on the wedding day, every anniversary, birthday toast, New Year’s at home, etc. with my partner. It would be for special times. Yes,there are cheap ones you can get and maybe those end up at the thrift shop. But a high quality crystal set with engraving might be something special to hold onto through the years. I know it is something I would not get rid of even during a downsizing event.
Yes, I do and H likes them, too. But I still have a few days before I have to order them.
I just asked S, who is home for the weekend, and he said they were cool looking.
I also have things, soozievt, that will be the last to go when I downsize. For my MIL, the engraved vase I mentioned (given to her when she was 80 and already had tons of stuff) was one of the last things to go for her. She took it from her longtime home, to independent living, to assisted living. She asked us to take it when she was in her late 80’s and showing signs of dementia. She was worried about it getting broken and wanted to be sure it was in a safe place. We wanted her to still have it but realized she was right, so we wrapped it carefully , thanked her for entrusting it to us , and took it to our home. It was actually quite emotional.
I have a cousin getting married for the second time in a few months. His future wife is also for the second time. I actually don’t know their tastes that well since they live on the other side of the country, but I’m coming up with a short list of gifts. I do know they both travel a ton for work. So far I’m looking at: 1) Leather passport ticket holders engraved, 2) leather luggage tags engraved,3) suede or leather engraved coasters or a 4) new wooden cutting board with two really sharp knives. Yeah, I’m trying to get them something that would be very useful to them but the problem is I don’t know what they have or don’t have. Anyone want to help me decide? 
I like the knives. I think there is some negative stigma for giving knives for a wedding, though. My knives are so old, I finally replaced my paring knife.
Just saw the water flossers at Sam’s Club, if you’re a member there, @busdriver11. I’m sure, OP, knowing your friends, you will find them an ideal gift.
I would stay away from the suede or leather engraved coasters or anything they might feel they had to display in their home. We have gotten our kids leather passport cases, luggage tags for graduation gifts but we knew they didn’t have that kind of stuff already. So, some of that depends on whether or not you think they already have that kind of stuff.
Not a member, HImom, maybe Costco has a deal.
I wonder what’s wrong with knives? My grandparents gave us a set, and they lasted a long time.
What about a gift certificate for massages?
When we have people over, its nice to have matching glasses, when i have something by myself, I just grab one of the set.
Idk.
Did they mention a registry or " no gifts please, just your presence is enough", on the invitation?
I kinda like thumper’s plant suggestion! I have named variety of plants given to us by friends - they are all meaningful to me, like the 4th of July rose. Magnolia stellata which was a 40th birthday gift to Mr. B moved with us from the old house to the new place.
Here is a British site with some varietal suggestions, alas, for the UK buyers:
https://www.rhs.org.uk/advice/profile?pid=702
I wonder if some of these can be found in the US!
I like the plant idea if you know someone is into gardening. If not sure, a nice plant in a nice pot could be nice- orchid, bonsai, etc.