<p>AnonTxmom: Is the college willing to accept him back under certain conditions if he takes time off? For example, if he gets a certain gpa in classes he takes at a state or community college? If he agrees to go to a study skills center or come in regularly to see an advisor? etc. If he comes back on probation, starts out with a smaller load, etc? Sometimes the reason colleges ask a student to leave is not just because the student has crashed and burned academically, but because he’s ignored efforts of the school to offer help. There can be maturity issues here, as well as study skills. That said, sometimes people just hit that wall in technical classes. It’s a different situation if they do poorly freshman year (my husband, who is an engineer, got a D in his first attempt at college calculus) vs doing progressively worse as they hit higher and higher levels in math or technical classes. </p>
<p>It must be very hard to watch this happen to your son who is technically an adult but is still your child. I hope you can find a way to get the information about his experience that will help you to help him sort out what’s going on – so that he gets more than a sense of failure out of what’s happened. Is it about needing to choose a different field? a different learning environment? or something else? Good luck to all of you.</p>