<p>AnonTxmom: Of course, he wants to solve the problem himself. That’s what many college students want to do, to prove that they are capable of doing that. That’s what I did when it became clear to me in college that I was not going to succeed where I thought I would. What I did was pretty much what Jamimom suggested - proposed to my advisor an alternative course of study, with a plan and reasons why this was the best course of action for me. </p>
<p>You and your S have to somehow decide whether or not to continue on the present course of study - whether at the current school or another - and then either construct a “parachute”, look to change schools, or figure out how to cope with the present problems. But the attitude of the dean or advior at school should brighten if you can show a plan for one or another course of action (unless they have reason to believe that the plan is not sensible).</p>
<p>Good luck on getting through this difficult period.</p>