<p>“. Getting a job in our small town could be difficult, however, and being home after being “the star” here would also be hard. He is also up against March 1 application deadlines for next fall transfers. That’s why I was wondering about calling admissions to ask what they’d want to see before considering his application. Good idea, or bad?”</p>
<p>He also could do some structured, regular volunteer work in a field or with an agency that he has an interest in. This would give him a good chance to bounce back and to find out more about his interests, talents and the direction he’d like to take in life.</p>
<p>He also could spend some time getting counseling. I suspect he is depressed, overwhelmed with his situation and could use some help sorting things out. It would be good if he could work with a counselor experienced with people having crises regarding careers.</p>
<p>As for his transfer situation, I think that you should be supportive, but let him take the actions that are needed. If he needs your help to do things like make calls, he is not yet ready to handle the stress and work that college requires. He really may need a year or so to figure out what direction to take with his life.</p>