Your single best source for evaluating your likelihood of admission is your school: partly the people who have been graduated over the last 2 years and mostly your GC. You say that “literally everyone” from your school gets into Rutgers (ostensibly including the ones who apply to CS/CoE)- great! how do people with your stats from your school do in admissions to the schools on your list?
I’m guessing you have an idea (possibly from your GC) that they don’t fancy your chances at the schools that you - and your parents and friends- rate highly, and that you came to CC hoping for more encouraging feedback. You say that you are struggling to get your head around the idea that you can get a good education at schools that you look down on. A lot of the regular posters on this thread are trying to help you avoid what we see every spring: a student devastated by ‘only’ getting into their ‘safety’ school- or no school at all.
Start at the BOTTOM of your list- and find schools that you won’t cry or feel like a failure if they are your only choice. That is hard to do!! it takes work. There are a lot of good suggestions in this post- spend time over the summer learning about them, looking for something that you could say ‘oooh- they have this specific thing that I would genuinely like to have/do’. Once you have 3-5 safeties and likelies, do the same possible matches. Once you have 3-5 matches, then look for 3-5 reaches.