I’m with @eyemamom. Made good choices in other areas of my life, but when it came to relationships not so much. If I had to do it all over again, I would choose better relationships.
Also, I wish I had made mentoring young women who came to work for me a priority.
Always wondered about that other BF. He came back to me when I was already engaged to DH and I told him I couldn’t break it off. I was really attracted to him. I’d love to know where he is but have resisted. My life with him would have been far more adventurous, I’m sure. I wish I hadn’t been a SAHM for so long. It was so opposite everything I believed in, but we have 3 incredible kids and hopefully my career sacrifice helped them. I totally changed careers about 5 years ago, and regret that I didn’t do it 15 years ago.
I think one has to be careful with the I wish or I regret I didn’t get back with this guy or gal stories because most people tend to only remember the good things about others so while you are with someone now, and know all the great and not so great things about that person, the people one left behind are always going to get the benefit of the doubt. They will always be young and beautiful in your mind’s eye.
In addition, whatever is missing in one’s life right now, perceived or real, like adventure, you can fantasize would be there in all its glory if only you were with him or her, the one that got away. If you have lots of adventure and you are lacking in security, here again, one can fantasize that that is exactly what we would have with the one that got away.
Having said that, on Facebook, or at reunions or weddings or funerals, look out, because that is where you run into people you haven’t seen in a long time. Just hope they aren’t in perfect shape, rich and all that because it could make your current situation look not so hot suddenly. I’m lucky in this regard because I didn’t have that many previous serious relationships which isn’t to say I wasn’t doing pretty well with the ladies it’s just that I wasn’t exactly in a lot of LT relationships. There were a few but they were long over. For me, there was one girl who I liked and dated right before I met my current wife. I liked her more at first. But I got tired of her playing me and my choice became obvious. I still think of her, now and then, but now when I think of her I just hope she turned out okay. She had lots of life issues. She wasn’t completely balanced in her life. I just hope she made it out of her 20’s okay.
Should have gotten a different degree, Accounting with minor in computer science or a variation of math like statistic.
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Should not have gone to a private university when in state tuition was $4/hour. It did go up %300 my sophomore year, so would have been $16/hr. The good ole days back in the stone age.