What Do Grown Children Owe Parents Who Were Abusive To Them As Children?

Only 20%? That seems low to me.

Something to consider is whether you have siblings and what you owe them.

A woman in my extended family was treated very badly by her father, but when he was elderly and had Alzheimer’s disease, she did her share in a round-robin arrangement where the old man lived with each of his daughters for several months at a time. She said she owed it to her sisters.