<p>Thank you for the replies, all very wise and “mind widening,” especially from xiggi, thank you. Very perceptive analysis. In fact, I see I was way off course to use the word “mortify” because I was playing right into my daughter’s anxiety about keeping her grades very high (she is first in her class and inhibits her own experimentation and daring by her commitment to keeping her place as first). She is only 16 and I know she will mature and come to appreciate that value comes in many forms, that it is good to take risks, that you can’t always have things “perfect” and can’t always be in control.</p>
<p>What bums me out is really quite simple: DD1 had this PreCalc teacher for a whole year and says she is a bad teacher. BUT next year’s teacher is excellent, and DD1 got a 5 on AP Calc.</p>
<p>I will refer to your posts to help me when DD2 complains, etc.</p>