Miss my daughter who is a nurse working with COVID patients in a city far from me. Eating with friends in restaurants. Wearing cute clothes when I go out ( lost 75 pounds 2 years ago and can wear cute clothes for first time in a long time) Daily grocery trips. That’s about it.
Don’t miss Travel ( except to see kids) Am a homebody and love being home.
I miss my DH. We are socially distancing at home because of all my risk factors, and he goes out to do all the shopping, errands, etc. We were both going nuts not being able to hug, but now we mask and glove ourselves and have a long hug daily. OTOH, we closer now than we’ve been in many years. Lots of good conversations, six feet apart.
I miss travel – going to see my friends in Ohio and PA, my niece and nephew who just lost their dad, my remaining sibs, and all the quilt shops en route to those destinations.
I miss my sons, and since both are thousands of miles away, we won’t be seeing either any time soon. We are video chatting with them more, which is nice, and they seem to enjoy it also.
I miss my water aerobics class. Finally find a class I can handle, and…
I miss sports, on TV and in-person. The Nationals haven’t raised the WS pennant or given out rings yet because they want the fans to be there for it. I really miss hockey.
I miss going out to lunch/dinner with my friends. OTOH, I have lost weight and reduced my sodium intake by eating exclusively at home.
I miss our charity quilting group and don’t know how we’ll be able to resume if we have to maintain social distancing. The workroom isn’t big enough to hold all of us in that scenario.
I miss not seeing my doctors – I’m under constant surveillance anyway, and there are issues that need addressing that aren’t happening in the current environment. It’s very anxiety-inducing.
What I don’t miss:
All the endless errands that suck up so much of my time and energy.
DH’s 2.5 hour daily commute. Good grief, he’s so much happier and less stressed without it, even though he still works the same 10-12 hours a day.
Spending money.
Hugging my daughter
Going to the Y and swimming
Going to lunch with friends.
I miss my daily visit with D’s guinea pig “Truffles”. After the Y I use to go to my D’s house and feed her some treat like dandelion weeds or cucumbers, clean up her cage and brush her with a little pink baby brush I bought for her. Now that my D is WFH I don’t go over there as much. I liked that she would wheek when I opened the door because she knew it was me and was gonna get a treat.
We used to have weekly dinners with my sisters in law and niblings. I miss those so much that I had a breakdown over it this past weekend.
I also very much miss restaurants and being able to run to the store to grab just a few things.
I don’t miss needing to go into work for meetings that can clearly be done online
I miss hugs. Just that hello greeting friends with a hug.
I miss sports. The college basketball finals, the Stanley Cup, and of course now baseball. I love a spring day when the game is on in the house.
I miss the ease of going out without all the planning it takes to stay safe. I miss the causal conversations with strangers when I’m out and about.
I miss my 87 year old mother and not being able to take her out. I’m watching her decline throughout this - she can’t find her words as easily and is having a tough time being so isolated. For the love of God open libraries and church for her. Her church could easily distance.
I miss watching my 17 year old be busy with friends and activities. Now he is sleeping a lot.
I miss being able to plan summer activities.
I miss my college student. He stayed in his college town for spring break because they were asked to self-quarantine before returning and he didn’t want to have to do that so he stayed. Now he has stayed to finish the semester. I haven’t seen him since early January.
Hugs. So many in my circle have lost parents including me. I just want to be able to go visit and hug my friends and family. And finally have the funerals.
I miss as not being in Cambridge now to see son’s graduation. I haven’t seen the kids since October.
I miss seeing my close local friends, but all are high risk. My heart hurt for my GF having to bury her mother alone, with just one daughter.
Surprisingly, I’m not missing getting dressed and going into the office everyday. I adapted well to phone therapy, as have my patients (many wouldn’t even try this mode.). Although my practice is down, the work is ever so much harder.
I don’t miss all my routine Doctor appointments, nor the hair, nails, and even the gym. I got my puppy 2 weeks prior to this isolation, so I’m walking in my neighborhood hours a day. Managed to lose 5 pounds. Meeting all the new young neighbors and the little children. Without the puppy I’d be doing deep cleaning, which is so satisfying.
I miss not being able to open up/watch any news, social media, etc. and be bombarded with bad news. It seems that everyone just wants to out do each other with the negativity and paranoia and bash someone who dares to suggest otherwise.
I miss not feeling guilty every time I go to the store like I’m doing something wrong. I miss not being able to the big city to just browse in different stores.
I miss SPORTS! ESPN is our go to channel at home. Bar Rescue and Shark Tank just isn’t the same.
I miss seeing the gym peeps, but I admit I’m starting to forget them. I am content in my gym in the shed. As long as I have a routine, it’s OK. what the routine actually is, is not as important.
I sort of miss my morning showers/lunch time naps in a house all to my myself. But, my family is pretty good at letting me nap in my room undisturbed.
I don’t miss seeing certain co-workers.
I’m surprised I don’t miss not eating in a restaurant that much. It’d be nice, but I’m OK with it. I’m also surprised I’m not missing traveling, because I LOVE that. I think being able to hang out with my family here at home all of the time is good too. I never thought I’d go through a period like this with us here with nowhere to go -just all of us together. I’m glad we all like each other. Travel will be there later.
I miss hiking.
I miss planning my summer vacation.
What is miss most are the phone calls from my son from college every Sunday night.
He’s here now, which is great and I love it, but he is a shy kid and he was really thriving at school. He was so excited when he called and proud.
I miss that for us both.
@Chumom Truffles the guinea pig is my favorite visual of the day!
I don’t miss getting up and rushing to get ready and get to the office. I like spending more time with my dogs and cats and getting to walk them with my husband every day.
I miss socializing on my friends’ or our deck.
I miss my gym. I miss the classes and the friends I have made there. It’s not the same exercising alone.
Today was the first day I missed my cleaning person. I’ve been handling things fairly well but today I was just over getting the king size sheets back on the bed.
I miss just going to the market and buying what looks good.
I miss seeing my kids. I want to go visit my daughter and her husband. I want to see her new barn and watch her ride her horse. I miss stopping by and visiting with my local D. I miss the routine we started in 2020 to spend a day just the two of us each month. I want to be able to have my family around the dinner table.
I miss going up to see my inlaws.
I miss my Friday routine. Meeting up with a group of supportive friends and going out to my favorite spot with my H for lunch.
I’ve enjoyed having my H come home for lunch each day. The zoom extended family gatherings. I’ve enjoyed watching my D help out her Aunt. I’ve enjoyed finding and taking the time to enjoy the beauty of where I live, even the birds at the crack of dawn. I’ve been enjoying my pool. I think I’ve gone swimming almost everyday this week. In the past I would only go in a few times a summer.
I’m sad that we won’t be able to go on a dream trip with my kids and their SO. I love to travel and I truly miss it. I hope we can one day move freely again.
Because the gyms are closed, I’m enjoying seeing many new people out and about enjoying the gorgeous outdoors here. Pre-COVID, whenever I’d go to a preserve or park to run/hike/bike, the parking lot would be less than 10% full and sometimes I wouldn’t see a single other person. Now, there are lots of people out - not a problem since these areas are so big it’s easy to distance. Our woods and wildlife are so special, I’m hoping everybody is really enjoying them and keeps enjoying them when this is over. So many people here have never seen a bobcat, fox, owl, snake, frog or bat; they only see a few of our wild birds or maybe a turtle or gator as they drive by. But we have amazing wildlife and it’s a totally different experience to see it when you’re outdoors. I guess I love it and hope by being outside other people will start loving it, too. It would make a difference in some of our community decisions about preserving open spaces, how we want to balance people and wildlife needs and other hot topics in our area.
I miss seeing friends in person, travel, being able to plan ahead (other than ‘what’s for dinner in the next week’), going to church/ singing in the choir, and most of all I am sad that my middle kid missed out on the last 2 1/2 months of high school - especially the last choir trip, last choir concert, and graduation.
I don’t miss much else tbh. We have a pretty cushy quarantine situation… all of our kids are here (oldest moved back in and is doing classes remotely), we have a big enough house that we aren’t all on top of each other, my husband is still fully employed from home, and we have a lovely outdoor area with a pool. I’m enjoying trying some new recipes, gardening (never liked it much before but I’m finding that I like it) and even a little sewing (same as gardening). I bought a karaoke machine for kicks and something to do so we do karaoke night at least once a week which has been a lot of fun.
I miss being able to plan ahead—for anything.
I miss feeling like my work was important to furthering the businesses of others. Now those others are much more focused on just surviving this whole mess.
I miss my Sunday routine.
I REALLY miss seeing my DD20 enjoy all the HS lasts that my DS16 got to enjoy.
I do NOT miss my commute except for the getting out of the house part.
I do NOT miss hair, makeup and outfit preparations for the workday.
I miss being with my mom who has very different ideas about social distancing and SIP than we do. It will be a very long time before we can get together again.
I’m not missing much else. I absolutely love having an empty calendar and no obligations whatsoever. We also haven’t faced any shortages yet of the things we eat/use, so we’re not feeling any deprivation. I know this is not the case for most, so I don’t want to come off as smug. I’m just an extreme introvert and wouldn’t leave my house ever again if I didn’t have to. It’s unfortunate that this awful situation “works” for me.
Miss: Going to church in person. My volunteer jobs. Swimming at the Y. Shopping for fun, not just essentials. A climbing stock market. Randomly deciding to eat out. Visiting my daughter and grandson every week. Hosting frequent house guests.
Don’t miss: Getting up at 5 a.m. in the dead of winter for one of my volunteer jobs. Hosting frequent house guests (yeah, this one is in both categories.) Hugs. You can stay 6 feet away even after this is done.
People!
And being alone!
I’m pretty obviously extroverted, I get my energy from interaction with people, and I miss seeing my students and my colleagues in person.
At the same time, I’m home with spouse and college student, and I’m never, ever alone. If I’m not being productive, someone knows. If I fuss with some crazy project, it affects everyone else and their plans, space, etc.
I miss lunch breakfast and lunch dates with my friends.
I miss getting together with our couple friends…especially with summer upon us and our favorite outdoor places.
I miss going to fun bars with my DH.
I miss planning my trip to Italy this year, and other trips!
I miss popping into clothing stores. I miss getting dressed up and going out in my date clothes!
I miss just not being afraid.
Since S is quarantined with us, I miss my privacy with my H.
I miss the illusion that I could plan for a stable future.
Also, the library, informal chats with people, travel, spontaneity.
And that my kids working in entertainment and performing arts will be ok.
I miss petting dogs that I meet while I’m walking.
And that sense of freedom that I could run out to the store and buy some leeks because I just found a new recipe for cockaleekie soup that I want to try. Maybe in 10 days…