I say this only with hindsight, because at the time it seemed to be too “laid back” an outlook for my kid. I have known many of my son’s cohort since pre-K, and knew a great many of them during high school, hockey teams, etc. I had opinions about their character, intelligence, curiosity, etc., and was sometimes surprised by where they wound up attending college.
Now that (most) of them have graduated, I have to say that overwhelmingly the capable, hard-working, quality, kids did well, regardless of where they went to college. I would have scoffed at this view some years ago, probably called it Pollyanna-ish, but . . .