<p>Apply to the University of Rochester, where you can take lessons in the secondary program at Eastman which generally has excellent teachers. Take those lessons, practice two to three hours a day (this will mean that you can’t afford to “waste time” like some other students), join ensembles, etc., while you take other classes. They will let you give recitals if you want, and you will have juries. After a year or two, see how good you are and if you still want to pursue music. If you do, you can do the “Take Five” program (fifth year of college is free) and double major with a degree from Eastman and a degree from U of R. In other words, if you take this approach, you don’t even have to decide right now.
Black and white thinking: it is very normal and typical for students of your age to gradually transition from black and white thinking to shades of gray.</p>