I think they are all important to me, but I think “cherished” May be more an appropriate word. From what I gather, it’s important to know your partners, too. I already pretty much can guess his. . #1 Would be physical touch (of course, right)? And #2, receiving gifts. I’ve learned that about him. He loves giving gifts. #3, words of affirmation, #4 acts of service, and #5 quality time
I took the quiz but already knew that it’s Words Of Affirmation for me. Especially the written word. Notes, emails, sticky notes - words speak to me and for me.
Oh yes, the written words are the best. I’ve kept all my love letters from when we were dating. We didn’t live in the same town, so over the summer we wrote letters to each other. they mean so much to me. It’s always been easier for him to express his feelings in the written word, and he does so beautifully! A real command of language I don’t possess. I haven’t received a love letter in decades, haha! So, it’s words now and they are extra special sweet when I hear them, since he’s not a mushy guy.
I do get quite a few compliments on my appearance though, which I eat those up.
I’ve saved cards where the boys actually say something sweet.
Acts of service
Words of affirmation
Physical touch
Gifts
Quality Time
I have a feeling that this would have looked much different for me before we were empty nesters and quality time would have been much higher on this list.
When I left a job I had been at for a very long time to go to a place where I knew no one and was nervous about taking something outside of my comfort zone, I printed out all the nice emails that people sent when i announced my departure. I hole punched them and put them in a binder to refer to whenever I was feeling nervous or imposter-y. It was such a confidence booster just to know it was there. I don’t think I actually ever OPENED the binder once I made it, but just knowing that I had a whole binder of people reminding me that I rocked was a huge boost whenever I needed it.
I agree with my results. I enjoy being with dh and doing things together, even if it’s mundane tasks like shopping. I don’t really care about receiving gifts, but I think that came up second because Dh is honestly just not a good gift giver. So while I don’t really care about getting gifts, if I’m going to get them (birthday, Christmas), I’d appreciate if he put more thought into purchasing them. I love giving gifts on special occasions and “just because” and put a lot of thought into what people might like.
I would love to see a comparison of what my let’s say 25 year old self would say (before kids and so much adulthood) and now.
We’ve had this conversation about love language at the family dinner table (we go deep sometimes! ). Words rank high for all our kids - I hope because we gave them a lot of verbal affirmation.
). Words rank high for all our kids - I hope because we gave them a lot of verbal affirmation.