My driving pet peeve…when people throw their cigarette butts out their car window!
People (DD and DH, I’m looking at you!) who just throw dishes in the sink without rinsing. People who don’t say thank you. People who don’t give you a little wave when you let them cut or turn in front of you in traffic. Unnecessary commas.
No. There is no judgement here. This is not about manners or comparison chewing. I would never, ever tell anyone else to try to chew more quietly when they are eating normally and I’m making the same sounds. I just can’t tolerate the sound. It’s a dysfunction.
I also can’t tolerate blue cheese. If I suspect there might be blue cheese in a salad or dish, I will have DH try it first. I threw up in a restaurant once from blue cheese that wasn’t listed on the menu as part of the dish. It was one of the most embarrassing moments of my life. :-&
So…today a thing about noisy chewing came up on my Facebook news feed from a friend. I had no idea this was an issue.
It does annoy me when someone is chewing gum while they are trying to talk to me!
Misophonia is actually a neurological issue that is not well understood or researched yet. It is very odd in that often the sufferers closest family or friends are the ones who trigger them the most. SO there is definitely some sort of psychological component too although the studies I am familiar with just used a fMRI to show the areas of the brain that lit up. I am not sure if they controlled for the person who triggered the sufferer.
My daughter can listen to her dogs eat their kibble with no problem or a baby eat something messy - the best she can explain it is, they have no control over the sounds so in her mind it doesn’t go to the amygdala.
If she tries to eat while wearing her noise canceling headphones, she can hear herself chew and breath and that is often impossible to deal with.
A little more info: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/23805089
@patsmom, you win !
I felt bad that the only person who really triggered my misophonia was my dh, but then one day while working at my boss’ house her chewing about drove me insane. We were working in close quarters, at her kitchen table. She always has music playing from another room, but it’s pretty quiet and when she started eating lunch I found a thousand reasons why I needed to be away from her – bathroom, heating up my food, making a call. When we’ve eaten together at other times it didn’t bother me, but there was a lot of other noise around us at those times. I absolutely am willing to concede that there’s a psychological component to it. My kids’ chewing doesn’t bother me, but as a kid my mother’s chewing did. Hmmmmm … I remember being relieved when I first heard about it on TV from Kelly Ripa. It had a name.
I guess I am happy to know it has a name and seems somewhat common, but I’m not sure that’s what I have if it’s only H who disgusts me with his chewing. Is it misophonia or is just despicable table manners when someone chews 100% of the time with their mouth open, talks with food in their mouth, slops food from the serving dish to their plate (instead of moving their plate to the dish and spooning), sits cattywampus to the table, gets up repeatedly during dinner, and leaves as soon as he is done eating? I’m going with poor parental training, seeing as his 3 siblings all do exactly the same things… sigh…drives me NUTS.
Trout Pout Lips. They are rampant in CA. I’m like a deer in headlights, just can’t stop staring. The profile image is cartoonish. And TPL’s don’t travel alone, they usually hang out under overblown cheeks, eyebrows which have migrated to the hairline and foreheads which can not form an expression to save their lives.
I keep waiting for one of these victims of TPL beautification to get suctioned to their $5.00/bottle, imported from virginal springs, water… I envision them having to stick a finger between the lips and the bottle to release the suction…sort of like releasing a suckling infant.
@LeastComplicated …I think it might be a kindness to tell your daughter. It’s a fairly new mannerism and if it annoys you, it probably does others as well. Not sure if it will make her mad, but before it becomes more of an ingrained tick, better coming from Mom. If anything, it might make her aware that it’s not perceived as funny anymore…likectelling the same joke over and over.
I can still hear people chewing even with their mouths closed. And it sounds like the people mentioned here are objecting to everyone’s chewing around them. Not all of them can be chewing with their mouths open.
That’s not a disorder on your part. What you are describing would disgust just about anyone.
ETA: after reading more about this issue in this thread, it seems that sometimes it is clearly more about an interpersonal problem with a given individual.It seems that if it were truly a neurological issue in those people, the discomfort with chewing should be more global. A friend of mine was having marital discord and said that during that time, his chewing drove her nuts. They worked through their problems and are now happier than ever. She said she no longer even notices his chewing anymore.
Interesting topic, actually.
I’ll go further and say people who know you just emptied the dishwasher and then proceed to put dirty dishes into the sink. That would be DH and D2. Why? Really, I want to know why?
Tailgaters when you are going at or above speed- limit. Especially on narrow windy roads at night where deer pop out of nowhere. Why do people do this? It is distracting
^On the other hand, people who go below the speed limit when the roads are fine. In Texas, it’s custom to pull over to let faster people go by you, but that happens up here very rarely.
Little. thing that is bothersome… starting a new thread on the same topic when one already exists!!
and agree about “fake” service or therapy or ESA animals. See my avatar.
There are people who will absolutely not use plastic bags, and obviously don’t feel that they should buy new reusables when their stuff can be squished into the existing bags. This happened in front of me again on New Year’s Eve. My theory is that since I have only seen it happen at Wegman’s, where you can’t self bag, it’s because these people feel that they should get all of their wishes accommodated in a way that they wouldn’t if they were rebagging the things personally. I should have videotaped it. Now, it’s not always that every item in every bag will be removed, although that happened on New Year’s Eve, but the adjusting and moving things around drives me insane. Of course, it’s probably just me - but if you watch, I bet you will see a lot of adjusting of items in reusable bags, too. It’s not time consuming if the customer is bagging, but when the checker has to do the adjusting while bagging and ringing up, it slows the process very substantially. And I couldn’t buy patience with a coupon!
Let’s see - people who don’t rsvp to an event.
People who are late without calling. I’ve actually left my office after an interviewee didn’t show up after 20 minutes and no call. I wouldn’t hire someone who couldn’t make the interview on time.
Motorcyclists who zoom in and around cars, especially on the DC Beltway.
The phrase “my bad”. It means I did something wrong and I don’t care at all.
I used to have a bff whose eating also drove me nuts, but that’s because he chewed with his mouth open. That’s just gross, and I take no responsibility for being grossed out by it.
On the things our kids do that annoy us (beyond the not bringing in dishes, ETC)…my teenage son will talk in a baby voice. He thinks it’s funny. It is not.
Is this common perception? I use it as a short way to apologize for a minor mistake that inconvenienced a friend.