<p>I looked back and found that S’s college is entirely paid for by a grandparent who left money in his will. Perhaps this has contributed in some way to the son’s not feeling that he has to contribute to his college degree by working this summer.</p>
<p>This is not Judgement AGAINST ctmom, for heaven’s sake!</p>
<p>How did this turn into a referendum on ctmom’s parenting skills or the life experiences of contributing posters?</p>
<p>She asked for advice, from Strangers, and that is what she is getting, even though, in her words, “we don’t know her.” Perhaps if she doesn’t care for some of the advice she is getting, she should ask advice from people who do know her!</p>
<p>The OP explicitly asked for opinions. I have taken time to actually READ many of the OP’s threads since October of 2007.</p>
<p>I am very, very sorry to say that I have doubts as to whether this boy has had ANY input whatsoever in the college process. It seems as if there is some schizophrenia involved here, as another poster mentioned, above. </p>
<p>One ctmom started literally a hundred threads about her S, who had a rocky freshman year (a D and an F) but ended up with a 3.0 gpa, a 2,000 SAT and “tons” of ec’s and community service.</p>
<p>Another ctmom posted two agonizing posts (one in December '07 and one in April, '08, I believe) about her son being “addicted” to WOW and Halo.</p>
<p>I still ask the question: how can a boy achieve all this while being “addicted” to video games and pot? </p>
<p>By definition, an “addiction” diagnosis is arrived at by deciding if the addiction is interfering in one’s life. If this boy was able to apply on his own to all colleges, fill out all his apps, ponder all the questions about college that ctmom stated he pondered, maintain decent grades, study for SATs, do ec’s and community service while playing video games for the past 10 months and smoking pot, then more power to him. There was no need for all the sturm and drang on the part of ctmom, was there?</p>
<p>Originally we were asked to comment on whether he was ready for college BEFORE we found out he was being tested for drugs EVERY THREE DAYS. Apparently calmom feels that is no reason not to go ahead and push the birdie out of the nest–I disagree, but then it’s not my money, is it.</p>
<p>I kind of feel as if I’ve been suckered into wasting my time on a situation in which I don’t know all the facts. I feel as if ctmom is looking for one answer and one answer only, the one that fits into her preconceived view: that her son will attend a prestigious college in the fall. Those who don’t hold this view need not apply.</p>
<p>But, hey, this is a message board–what did I expect? No hard feelings!</p>
<p>I’m sure he’ll do just fine in college.</p>