<p>I didn’t read all the posts and I don’t have much advice. I struggle with my own kids and question my parenting skills so I can sympathize with ctmom. I just have a comment on the subject over involvement as I have been mulling over it for myself. </p>
<p>I think, if the child turn out well then the decision resulting in the course of action will be judge as right , when the events turn out not so well, then we’ll tend to think we did too much or too little. </p>
<p>I know if my kids turn out wonderfully - graduate in 4 years with decent grades and some foundation to be financially independent I would have more likely think I did everything right, and if the kids didn’t turn out that way, I will more likely think I did something wrong - over involved/not involved enough/not effective enough.</p>