<p>To all the many many posts here who have been so kind, so sensitive, so heartwarming and encouraging I truly thank you…coming home from work and reading these posts made me smile. </p>
<p>To isla…I don’t know you but you are giving me the creeps, no offense. You sound as if you have taken a unusual highly curious interest in my story and you spend more time bashing me, my parenting skills and coming at me with your suspicions than you do offering real sound, good advice. Frankly you have made it very clear that you think my over 100 posts to YOU is strange, and over the top…your point is taken, how many times do you want to talk about it? I will say again, now its SEVERAL people who have pm’d me about your posts and we all agree they are a bit odd, and very very antagonistic. Until you have lived a day in my shoes, you really should not judge. I HAD TO BE VERY INVOLVED IN HIS LIFE…I don’t want to think about what would have happened if I wasn’t and if I was a kid, I would feel grateful for a parent who is there for me every step of the way…its much more work to be there than to not be there. We all do what we think is right, and you know what, despite what we are going through, desipte the hurt and heartache, I still love him very much and am proud of some of the accomplishments he has achieved despite going through what he has, his own advisor was stunned when I opened up to her,based upon his good grades that he was going through such an ordeal. He could have faltered in his grades but that is one thing he really kept up and I know his own personal pain was great and that I am sure wasn’t always easy.</p>
<p>Norstarmom, thanks for your very kind and gentle words if wisdom, it sounds like you too have had your share of heartache and I guess it takes someone to know what I am going through who has also dealt with a similar situation. Not all of us have perfect kids who can keep it together no matter what like some on this board.
For those of you who are following this story, he did work today…we went to the therapist who as someone suggested above also said he should take an active role in the “contract” we are outlining and allow him to be able to dictate to us, within reason of course, what he thinks is reasonable. We started doing that tonight, and we will see what kind of end product we end up with.
Today was a tough day, sometimes this year plus of sheer agony, pain and frustration has really caught up with me, I just felt low and depressed for no real reason other than I feel emotionally and mentally wiped out. I feel in my heart we will get through this, but it is very hard to go through this slow process, with the added pressure that we have some serious decisions to make very soon. Will keep you posted…</p>