<p>Hi ctmomof3 … no great advice here … just a message of support as you work through this.</p>
<p>For me personally I seem to have a bit of a contrarian view on less mature kids. For my kids the less mature they are the more I am going to try to guide them to a situation that makes them address their immaturity. I think a tougher more competative college, while a risk, can be good for a less mature student because they have no where to hide. Letting a kid start at a CC or a less competative school where they may ba able to coast academically without getting on top of their studying and lifestyle issues. Guiding them towards tougher schools carries the risk of failure … but I view that as a short-term issue … the bigger question for me is will this “stress test” more likely help or hinder my child. </p>
<p>Full disclosure … I was one of those kids … pretty good grades and SATs in high school and no study habits or work maturity. I went to a top tier school and got my lunch handed to me for 3 semesters (got every grade on the D-, D, D+, C-, C, C+, etc scale) … eventually I woke up and worked my butt off. I believe 100% if I had gone to my state school, which was fine, I would have gravitated to the dead beats and slinked by with better grades than I got at my school and while not growing up … how much longer it would have taken me to grow up I have no idea but I’m sure it would have taken a lot longer.</p>
<p>My kids are all different and I view one of my main roles is guiding them into situations that will best help them grow and mature … and that path is very different for each of my kids.</p>