<p>D1 still believes her birthday should be a national holiday(she’s been known to celebrate the whole month), D2 is happy with a little family celebration.</p>
<p>Deb - you did good. Sometimes a visit with friends could just clear one’s mind. I get together with my girlfriends just to rant sometimes.</p>
<p>I agree - good job and you have some real plans in place to combat the situation. My own personal college story goes somewhat like this. Hated my school from the day I got there because I didn’t get into the college I wanted to go to out of high school. I basically had “one foot out the door” from day one. Did very well first semester, reapplied to dream school, got in with scholarship offer! Then realized I loved the college I was at BUT it took me until April to realize I loved it. By that point my poor parents were completely exasberated with me. So for those of you whose kids are freshman give it time (however, I believe deb’s d is a sophomore). One of my s’s friends from home last year decided by Xmas break to transfer and made all the arrangements while he was home. When I saw him at spring break he was waffling but felt he had already gone too far with the new school. In the end he did transfer but I wonder what might have happened if he hadn’t done all that work over Xmas break when he was so down on his original college. Sometimes for a college kid the grass is always greener.</p>
<p>I’m coming late to this conversation, and you already have lots of good advice. One thing I didn’t see mentioned is the possibility that your daughter is clinically depressed. Depression can go hand in hand with social anxiety (which someone did bring up as a possibility upthread). A feeling of despair – every little thing seems like the end of the world, nothing will ever get better, each bad thing is generalized – is a symptom of depression. Does she have any other symptoms (sleeping issues, weight changes)? I really would encourage her very strongly to see someone in psych support for the college. They can help to evaluate her, and if it’s not depression, they can still help her deal with her issues and feel less lonely. If it is depression, she may need therapy and medication to get past this rough patch.</p>
<p>Good luck!</p>