<p>I’d just told my kids (who both lost elections) that I am/was there for them. When they were ready, I also reminisced about the one election where I ran for secretary – and lost. I also encouraged them in other leadership positions that they had and continue to hold. Sometimes, they really don’t want a “pep talk,” but just need to feel sad and move on. </p>
<p>By the way, I know it sounds trite, but I firmly believe it DOES help our kids if they overcome adversity. I know it has made my kids much stronger than their peers who always got whatever they wanted and never had major disappointments.</p>
<p>Part of growth is letting our kids come to US when they want us and LISTENING. That can be more important than anything we can say–listen and take your cue from your child. Our kids have great insights and are stronger than we sometimes give them credit for. In some ways, it is comforting for them to have some initial big disappointments where we can physically be there for them rather than when they are thousands of miles away.</p>