<p>We also have a friend with three daughters who lives in our same rural town -they attended Duke, Rice, and Northwestern. They are all older, married, etc. now. She has such spot on advice, even after all these years. She told us that it took each of her daughters AT LEAST a year and maybe a year and a half until they felt like they weren’t having to struggle so hard to succeed.
She told us to expect the same with D at WashU. She would use a variation of the Oz line, “You’re not in Kansas anymore.”</p>