<p>With both kids my h had strong objections to a school that was on the kid’s list, but he didn’t interfere with the application process. He hadn’t visited either school, and I had, so I understood why the schools in question were on the list. In my d’s case she figured out for herself that the school in question wasn’t a good fit and withdrew her application. My son was rejected from his “objectionable” school, but by that time he had already heard from his SCEA choice, so the school was basically off the table anyway (he just had never gotten around to withdrawing his app). My h and I both drew a sigh of relief. If either school had ended up being a top choice I would have made sure that my h visited so he could get acquainted with the school and develop a level of comfort with it, or at least be able to make more cogent arguments as to why it wasn’t a good choice. I don’t think he would have ultimately vetoed our kids’ choices. To do so would be disrespectful of the kid, I think, unless the reason for the veto was really compelling.</p>
<p>That being said, I think it’s perfectly legitimate to be concerned about your child’s emotional safety as much as his/her physical safety. I just think that in this case, further research will show the dad that it’s not as much of a problem as he fears.</p>