<p>My feeling is that before your husband even considers a veto or a discussion in which he conveys to your S that he will be disappointed if S attends X college, he should do some very specific and energetic due diligence. Find a minister from your denomination at X college, or the coordinator of the Christian fellowship, the priest from Newman and the rabbi or director at Hillel, and talk to them about the extent to which the college has a faith community. Do religious Christians feel marginalized at X? Does the school provide hallal and kosher food options? (Not directly relevant for you, but might give you some sense of how committed the school is to accommodating the needs of observant, religious students, and the presence of such students at X.)Is there an office for religious affairs or an interfaith council, showing a real concern and commitment to exploring religious issues on campus? Is the predominant lifestyle in the dorm that of an ongoing bacchanal? Are reflective, deeply religious students so rare at X that the minister throws a party whenever he comes upon one of them? Do religious groups at X have an online presence and can you find regularly scheduled social events, community service, and worship activities? Are there photos from the last event and do you see five or twenty-five students in attendance?</p>
<p>Unless X is an extremely unusual top college, your DH might be very pleasantly surprised.</p>