<p>Treat your daughter like an adult and tell her, just like your husband told you! College kids are not babies and they have to deal with real life and death issues that don’t wait for their busy schedules to clear. Isn’t this part of growing up?</p>
<p>Thank you, everyone, for your good advice. To those of you who have shared your losses, thank you and may your grief evolve into loving remembrance. </p>
<p>My husband and I will tell our daughter this weekend. I checked her college’s website, and grief counseling is offered both through the wellness center and the chaplain’s office. She also has a good network of friends at college who will be able to offer comfort.</p>