Where can I find a "nurturing" engineering graduate school?

Milk.
Point taken that engineering isn’t nurturing to begin with.
I am having difficulty “holding down a job” because the nature of engineering jobs seems incompatible with my preference to master tasks in a structured way.
Academics is the only place that offers me that structured routine.
I have tutored plenty and find it rewarding to come up with clever ways to communicate knowledge that has been dear to me.
So, I am considering becoming a professor. For that to happen, I need grad school. Hence, my first post.
Any help with this line of thinking?
Appreciate the comments. I’ve been moved to utter desperation and could really use any help “figuring it out.”