I’ve found that only your family and close friends “nurture” you.
As for education nurturing you…I’d actually recommend a classic…“The Catcher in the Rye”. This book is many things, but part of it is about a messed up individual’s messed up experience in education. I love the following quote from the book. It is from page 2. Holden Caulfield talks about the fictitious prep school he was just kicked out of….
The point is do you even want a school, whether it is a university, grad school, or prep school “nurturing” you or “molding” you? Sometimes this “nurturing” can come off as insincere and do more harm than good. Is it really a University’s job to guide your growth? Do you really even want that? Why? Perhaps when I was much younger I expected something like this from a school, but I think it is a sure way to become depressed. This is because any type of educational institution has their own agenda. This is fine. It is just that a university shouldn’t pretend otherwise.
Perhaps something to think about. As I reflected on finishing a PhD, this was really a helpful book to read. It put me at ease with things and seemed to put things in perspective.