First of all, your daughter is in good shape. Rutgers is a great school. She’s an excellent student who has shown that she will likely shine at any college. She’s supported by parents who want the best for her, and are able to send her away to excellent colleges. She has it “made”, as an old expression goes.
I would get those options sewn up and then shop around for other alternatives. Look for schools that have women’s crew where she might be valued. Contact the coaches, run NPCs, show some interest and, let it be known what you can afford.
Schools like Hobart-William Smith, St Lawrence, Union, tiny Washington College. Catholic schools like Duquesne, Lasalle, Iona. Get a complete list of those schools with crew and have your DD start talking to them. Where has the crew coach been through all of this, by the way?All of the time, money, sweat spent on crew all these years, and the coach and club have no tips and contacts for college? Something not right here.
But give it a go; you don’t have much to lose with the good back up schools she has. She can go all out.