Sounds like a good idea that you talked about the future and not just this year. I said up thread that I wasn’t going to buy my sons GF of 2 years a gift but… then I talked to him and he thought it would be nice if I did so he helped me pick out a necklace that he thought she would like.
@MichiganGeorgia, Your S and his GF have been together for 2 years. It could be different for your situation.
We came from a culture that focuses well too much on gift exchanges (to the extent that the government may even find a need to crack down on this – but the reality is that not participating in the “practice” could result in social repercussion but we just do not care because we do not live in that “old” world anymore); also the cost for marriage (which is not the same as the cost of merely the wedding, which is much lower) is also excessive.
We are rebellious (partly by necessity) in the sense that we try hard to discard everything that we have been “told” since our birth that this is what people are obliged to do.
Re:“He posted it in the “say it here” thread.”
Maybe the “bragging” thread? I’m indeed proud of not doing the gift exchanges, even though we were struggling before we reached this decision and we were proud of our decision.
Oh that’s right. It was in the bragging thread, not the say it here thread. My error.