I take garbage bags to the bin. Husband takes bins to the road once a week. Husband does most of the cooking and dishwashing (because he is OCD about it). I clean the rest of the house but the kitchen is his territory. He is one that even I spent the day scrubbing toilets, vacuuming and mopping floors that if the kitchen towel isnt in place folded in perfect thirds he doesnt think that the house is tidy enough.
DH takes the trash out and the bins to the curb most of the time. He cooks and does the dishes most of the time. He takes care of the yard and picks up the dog poo.
We have a cleaning service every two weeks. We both wash the sheets but he is incapable of putting the comforter back in the duvet cover. I do my own laundry and mostly do his laundry.
I was the primary breadwinner. I am 100% in charge of finances, paying bills etc… when the kids were home I was 100% in charge of school, sports, activities, schedules, lunches, clothes, doctors appointments, haircuts, etc…
We joke that most of my chores ended but he still has his.
It is pretty much 50/50 here - whoever notices the bag is full brings it to the bin. Whoever remembers on Thursday nights brings the bins to the curb. We are in an East Coast suburb.
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West coast-Our garbage bins have to be taken down our long driveway which has a slight incline. My husband brings them down most weeks. Our green waste can is just inside our gate at the bottom so I will sometimes take that out to the street. We take ours down the afternoon before. For years are pickup when our pickup was Tuesday I would often bring them down. Now it’s Monday and my husband does it as part of his Sunday chores. When they got picked up early morning I’d bring the empty ones back up. Now they don’t get picked up till the afternoon. If I’m already home for the day he brings them up. We have a compactor and empty once a week. I usually take it out. I always put the new bag in.
My son has an older neighbor who likes to take his bins to the curb and put them away. She started when he was single and half the time would forget to put out his bins. She also sweeps the sidewalk for him. She has a bit of dementia and also picks up garbage and sweeps the elementary school parkway.
From the other thread the other item was her husband not going in her purse. My mom never let anyone go in her purse. My husband is afraid of my purse. He doesn’t think he can find anything inside.
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!!! Same here. When he needs something that just happens to be in my purse, he would never reach inside even if I tell him to! Like he expects to encounter a poisonous snake or something like that inside!
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Me too. If I tell my husband to just get something from my purse he just brings it to me rather than just unzip it and get it. And I try to be a minimalist so there isn’t even much in there to begin with.
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90% of the time, H takes out the garbage. It goes out the night before and the truck comes to get it around 4:30 am. I often grab the can and bring it in but H does his share of that too. Our non spoken rule is: if you take the garbage bag out of the kitchen, the other person puts a new bag in the wastebasket. Recycling is a group effort usually as we haul it to a center where we climb up steps to dump it all in a big dumpster bin. Gone are the days when we could take it to the curb.
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Are we the only ones with bears and raccoons that get into the garbage at the curb unless you are standing right there?
Animals are one reason we don’t have town pickup in Maine. We have to keep our bins inside the garage to discourage raccoons and bears.
THIS! OMG – don’t ever let me open the cabinet door with trash in my hand and find the can without a liner! 
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I keep a supply of folded liners in the bottom of the wastebaskets. Easy to immediately put new one in.
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Thanks for mentioning this account!
I watched a few reels. What is the backstory on this? Did she used to have nag at him to get him to take it out or something? I think she’s so cute!
Not sure about the backstory, @Hoggirl. One of my dearest friends lives in Lexington and follows her and Ellen C.’s best friend from their UK days, @kycakemaker, and those two accounts began appearing in my feed almost 2 years ago. I quickly followed them as they are just simply enjoyable to me. @kycakemaker is not only a gifted cake creator, but she is Halloween obsessed, so this is her time of year right now for bringing out the spooky decorations. They both make for a good distraction from the daily news of the world.
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I’ve got two trash cans (SimpleHuman) in the kitchen that have a built-in space for the liners. It’s really easy; the only issue is that I have to buy the bags online (not near a place that sells them).
Who takes the trash: my husband takes it and I do the recycling. We live in a small New England town that has a transfer station. You need to buy a yearly sticker and you have to buy heavy duty trash bags for everything that isn’t recycled. You can buy these from the town and two local stores will have them. Cans, glass, newspapers, cardboard are all recycled in separate areas. There are also places for metal and you can pay to drop off appliances. We also have special times for hazardous waste. In one area there a shed where people leave anything (Take it or Leave it). Some folks spend lots of time looking through all the stuff that people have left. My neighbor says her husband comes back with more stuff than he took to the transfer station.
If you don’t want the hassle of the transfer station you can hire a private hauler. They provide the cans and you have to leave them at the end of your driveway. The haulers come twice a week. The transfer station is open twice a week. The cost of the hauler is about the same as cost of getting a transfer station sticker and buying bags.
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I do, 100% of the time, for physical reasons. The trash bins stay in the alley, and they are relatively tall and also up on a curb. My 4’11’ wife struggles to lift a whole bag of trash high enough to get it safely in there, whereas it’s no problem for 6’2” me.
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So do I. So why on God’s green earth would “someone” NOT pull up a new one?
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In our house, the person who removes the trash bag replaces it with a new one. How hard is that to do??
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Can you talk to my husband? This is one of my pet peeves. So many times I get the “I don’t have time” excuse. The liners are right next to the trash cans.
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Evidently it requires extraordinary eyesight and massive amounts of time.
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SoCal here, rural suburbs.
He goes into work. I stay home.
99% taking the trash, the recycling and the green compost bin out, the afternoon before pick up. We are now getting early pick ups, since the city will be billing us starting this month, after years of free city pick up since 1918.
99% doing the dishwasher. I hate doing dishes that was my main chore as a child and I still hate it but if I don’t do it, apparently people don’t see the mess they create in my house.
I do 99% of laundry. I want to do it because I don’t trust others in this house to read the labels.
Because my father was a mechanic for most of his life, somehow, my husband expects me to be a mechanic. Thankfully, I did have woodshop and metal shop in middle school. Plus my dad showed me how to weld, use tools, patch holes, paint and use a plumbers snake. I helped our son build and put together his computer.
Hubby does all the outside care, plus I have a gardener who fixes the outside care that my husband does. Does anyone else have one of these? One step forward, two steps back?
My husband has to take care of all the creepy crawlies and animals that reside in the pool, that was evidently made for them: spiders, red diamondback rattlesnakes, scorpions, quail, squirrels and rabbits when not in season from the coyotes and mountain lions.
I like cleaning the kitchen because then I know that it’s clean. Somehow, the husband and children don’t believe that pieces of food and crumbs get behind table-top appliances and coffee makers.
Now they want me to get an air fryer. For years, I had been wanting a kitchen remodel and when I finally got that, I got cabinet space enough to fit everything, or so I thought. Then my children moved back in, and took out their stored appliances, to fill up my counters, which I can’t stand! Air fryer, and rice cooker! No thank you. I paid a fortune for the remodel, to have clear counters and they wanna fill them up!
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We’re similarly situated. Private garbage pickup is available but we’ve opted to haul our trash and recycling ourselves. We only need to go once or twice a month.
Part of the reason we’ve chosen this route is that we do a lot of home improvement projects that sometimes generate a lot of trash that we’d need to haul off anyway, and we can throw that, along with the household garbage and recycling into the back of a pickup truck and be done with it.