I do not know where you all live, but all of my kids have dress codes at work. D2 works for a large asset management firm in Boston. Can’t wear sleeveless, must wear pantyhose, and open toe shoes can only show 3 toes showing. D1 in NYC, also working in finance, was at one timed criticized for leaving the office after work in flip flops and having brightly colored toenails. Son must wear a tie to work.
I personally like to dress up more than down for work, going to the theater, out to dinner on a Sat. night and to travel. I love how Europe is dressier and more formal in dress and at meals. In Europe we get crystal bowls for jelly and butter and cloth tablecloths and napkins for breakfast. It feels so elegant. In the US we get jelly and fake milk for coffee in little plastic containers and paper placemats. It is so cheap and tacky. I am talking about places that are on an equal level financially.