@ucbalumnus There are plenty of things to do and athletes are not allowed to join frats or sororities and don’t drink much at all. A lot has changed since the 1980’s.
This whole thing is sadly misunderstood. Schools that don’t have frats have different kinds of social organizations that are very similar. Notre Dame has a house system as do others, every NESCAC school has sports houses. They all operate in the same way.
College is socially competitive, students need to understand that no matter where they go, freshman boys especially.