<p>Jonrie, in case you missed it, to most of us it would be obvious that this comment was not a request for continued interaction. It was a request for you to leave her alone.</p>
<p>In the context of this thread, however, it is mildly amusing that your response to her cease & desist request was… a mini-lecture on still more minutiae.</p>
<p>I’m curious: Is this what you consider “passionate?” If so… I’ll be quite content to carry the label of “passionless according to galoisien on CC” :D</p>
<p>“They also have a tendency to love to play sports, which for some funny reason adults seem to lose passion in as they get older. (no, watching sports on TV doesn’t count)”</p>
<p>A lot of times, you seem to lack basic information about human beings. Your thread on why people want their own biological children is one example. Your comment above is another.</p>
<p>People lose interest in playing sports because as virtually all people age, it becomes difficult if not impossible to play the sports that they may have been passionate about playing when they were young.</p>
<p>Teams aren’t looking for slow, old people who have had or who need hip or knee replacement.</p>
<p>As many adults have kids of their own, their limited free time also is devoted to their children, not to activities like playing sports that they’d do without their kids.</p>
<p>People that “loved” sports as young people usually wind up coaching their childs sports teams. I know that has filled the sport void for me once I couldn’t find an age appropriate group to still enjoy.OP makes way too many generalizations about adults. A bit of Catcher in the Rye going on here </p>
<p>“A brief note about Holden’s name: a “caul” is a membrane that covers the head of a fetus during birth. Thus, the caul in his name may symbolize the blindness of childhood or the inability of the child to see the complexity of the adult world. Holden’s full name might be read as Hold-on Caul-field: he wants to hold on to what he sees as his innocence, which is really his blindness.”</p>
<p>The desire to have <em>children</em> is basic.
The desire to have <em>children which you know have your own DNA</em> is not. </p>
<p>This is not quite the same as the desire to mate in a way that will result in children having a favoured pattern of genetic makeup relative to your genes – a desire mediated by sexual selection and selfish genes. Certainly it would be a very sophisticated Green-Beard effect – to have your genes cause you to prefer a child who you know has your own DNA? </p>
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<p>Practice, I believe, is more important than aging generally. Continuous practice slows down or reverses aging effects.</p>
<p>“Practice, I believe, is more important than aging generally. Continuous practice slows down or reverses aging effects.”</p>
<p>People in sports get various injuries and have wear and tear that people not in sports may not have. I know many people who had to give up their favored sports because of knee injuries and things like rotator cuff injuries. Meanwhile, people who are their age, but weren’t in sports don’t have those problems, which can beset athletes while in their 20s or even younger.</p>
<p>"The desire to have <em>children</em> is basic.
The desire to have <em>children which you know have your own DNA</em> is not. "</p>
<p>^^^Because no adult wants to let some upstart too-smart-for-their-own-good kid who accuses them of being passionless and incurious have the last word.</p>
<p>And also, forgive the armchair analysis, but most of these parents here, including myself, remember those “don’t trust anyone over 30” days way back in the 70’s when we congratulated ourselves for not being like our parents, only to wake up here to find out… that we’re accused of being, well, do I need to finish this thought?</p>
<p>OK, I apologize for keeping this thread going…</p>
<p>I am PASSIONLESS and UNCURIOUS (sic) about fishing, my husband’s passion. He and his buddy can sit and watch fishing shows, talk about fishing, etc., etc., for hours and hours and hours. We’ve been married 24 years. I’m not going to suddenly become interested in which knot or lure or temp or WHATEVER IT IS THEY FIND INTERESTING!!!</p>
<p>But, that’s OK! He doesn’t generalize that I or all women are passionless and uncurious. He just knows that we have different interests!!! </p>
<p>Well actually it’s not about the common interests thing. It’s like my mother doesn’t have any passionate pursuits of her own, at all… I’m fine if they don’t mesh with mine. </p>
<p>Although one parent on here brought up a very good point – perhaps parents are actually doing their passion, whereas kids can only dream or anticipate their passion, and talk about it endlessly, and maybe the adults who take a break at the end of the day are ready to do something else and return to it later (with actions and not words). </p>
<p>I did suddenly remember why I found some conversations so tedious though. It’s like parents don’t seem to take your words for anything and you have to repeat and reassure them over and over about your health, rent and other bureaucratic aspects of life. They ask, “ARE YOU SURE?” and you have to say for the billionth time, “YES!” </p>
<p>Are you sure your phone isn’t MISSING? Are you well? You aren’t sick are you? Are you SURE? Must make sure you know! When did you last see a doctor? (Didn’t you ask this last call too? Shouldn’t you have remembered?) </p>
<p>I know my mother’s SSN and alien registration number by heart but she also has to ask me for my address ever time she wants to send something…I think that’s the other thing … conversations feel tedious when you feel like the other participant won’t remember the details of them.</p>
<p>“I know my mother’s SSN and alien registration number by heart but she also has to ask me for my address ever time she wants to send something…”</p>
<p>It was a lot easier for me to memorize things like phone #s when I was young. I am convinced that’s because I had more room in my brain. The older one becomes, the more knowledge one has gathered.</p>
<p>"It’s like parents don’t seem to take your words for anything and you have to repeat and reassure them over and over about your health, rent and other bureaucratic aspects of life. They ask, “ARE YOU SURE?” and you have to say for the billionth time, “YES!”
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<p>Parents tend to do this when their kids have lied to them in the past.</p>
<p>I saw the title of this thread, but I wasn’t very interested in finding out what it was all about. Then I thought I’d post my opinion on the topic, but I really didn’t care about it.</p>
<p>NSM, how has Galoisien lied to his mother in the past?</p>
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<p>I don’t understand why you’re extrapolating your mother’s particular idiosyncracies to “parents” as a whole. </p>
<p>I also don’t get how saying “Are you sure you … (have enough money, aren’t sick, don’t need my help in some way)” translates to passionless and incurious.</p>
<p>Honestly, galoisien, something is missing in your ability to read people emotionally.</p>