<p>Look people aren’t perfect. Admissions process is a stressful process where a lot of people become tense and lose confidence for some time. It is the same as any job interview. It’s temporary. It doesn’t mean we have psychological problems. I admit it, I applied to schools to see how money I would get and stayed on the waitlist to see if I’ll get in and if I didn’t get in because of Tufts Syndrome. Don’t say I took someone’s spot because I know I didn’t. I’m not going which means that waitlist spot will go to someone who wants to go. You sound like someone whose children didn’t get in or something (of course you might not be).
But really you say we need confidence from the inside and all that ideal stuff, but think about it. We’re all human and sometimes we have the need to confirm ourselves and this is just a mere opportunity. Good for you if you came out intact from the admissions process but guess what most people DON’T come out intact. Sometime they’ll get over it, but for the time being, we do that. Btw don’t act like you’re not selfish. We’re all selfish and you know it. Maturity? Even if you are adults you don’t have it sometimes. You expect people to be rational all the time. How can that be possible? We’re people not some God-made moral machine.</p>