<p>I’m in the “wait till marriage crowd”. I’ve seen too many of my girls have sex w/ some guy b/c he was pressuring her, or b/c she thought it was the cool thing to do, and she ends up getting preggers or contracting an STD. We all know that the best way to prevent pregnacies, STDs and the like is abstinance, but verrrry few ppl do that, so the next best thing is protection. I’m uneasy with hookin up w/ random ppl b/c if you don’t know the person, they can tell you anything abt thier sexual health, and u have no clue if thier lying or not. Condoms don’t prevent everything. I just don’t wanna take that kind of risk with my body. </p>
<p>I’m not condemning those who do have casual sex, I’m just tellin you why I choose to wait.</p>
there’s nothing wrong with wanting to wait til marriage to have sex, but using condoms + birth control properly is about as safe as getting behind the wheel of a car. The chances of you dying or getting permanently mutilated in that car are probably equivalent to condoms + birth control failing, except car injuries are probably more likely.</p>
<p>there are some girls who feel pressures like these, and that’s unfortunate, but some girls have sex solely because it feels really, really good. haha</p>
<p>Does anyone else feel like the whole “abstinence” thing in school was just a load of brainwashing? I can understand if your doing it because of some religious morality thing, but it doesn’t make much sense otherwise. I think the class was geared mostly towards the less-than-average responsibility crowd, because if you have sex safely,the odds of anything terrible happening are very, very slim. They told us the odds of a condom breaking were around 30-40%…which is obviously very exaggerated. The only other argument in favor of abstinence was “saving it for that special person,” which I guess is legitimate, but not very strong.</p>
<p>It seems the only reason the government makes us take these classes is so they don’t have to deal with those unwanted pregnancies, std’s, etc. that happen to certain people who weren’t careful. I don’t think abstinence can really benefit a person personally. Just makes people prude/self righteous. On the contrary, I would respect someone who remained abstinent (provided it was for the right reasons)… more power to you. I’m just saying there’s nothing wrong with the alternative unless your really irresponsible.</p>
<p>“I went to a Catholic college. They wouldn’t sell condoms on campus which was to teach us a lesson: to save up for the abortion! Because that can be a pricey fix, I mean, come on…no, no, obviously I’m kidding about that. But it just seems crazy, you know. You put a bunch of 19 year old kids in a dorm together, “Well I guess since we don’t have condoms, we’ll just play Pictionary! Does anybody have any Pogs? I like those Pogs!” No! They’re gonna have sex with each other, because that’s what college is for. It’s where dorks go to have sex with other dorks. It’s like a dork dating service. …and that’s where you’re children are right now.” – my bff mike birbiglia, speaker of truth.</p>
<p>I honestly can’t believe this is a thread. </p>
<p>Every red blooded person, who isn’t asexual, wants to have sex. The only difference from person to person are the circumstances in which they want it. When I started college, I really wanted to find a girlfriend and get laid. I don’t see what is so hard to understand, people want to have sex. In college you have the freedom to do it, so people who want to, do it.</p>
<p>I have no idea why people wait. Waiting to have sex is the worst idea ever. Here is why:</p>
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<li><p>When you do have it for the first time, you’ll suck at it. Better to get the practice in before you get old and you are expected to be decent. Loving someone doesn’t make up for the fact that they suck in bed.</p></li>
<li><p>People who have had sex don’t like dating virgins. Everyone knows virgins freak out and get super attached way to early in a relationship, huge turnoff.</p></li>
<li><p>What if you marry somone only to discover your or that person has a fetish that the other doesn’t want to be involved with? You’re both screwed, and you have no way of knowing ahead of time. </p></li>
<li><p>Most guys can’t feel close to a woman until they have had sex (or man if you swing that way).</p></li>
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<p>Haven’t you all seen the Sex & the City episodes where Charlotte and her fiance decide to wait until marriage to have sex so that it’ll be more “special?” Turns out he sucks in bed and they end up divorcing…</p>
<p>I’m the Mother of a freshman and my answer to the original poster is …many reasons…it depends on the person. My D had one friend that had sex in her Senior year of HS…she thought she was in love and had found “the one”. He went off to college and they broke up. She has now been dating another guy seriously for a year and has not chosen to have sex with him…yet. Another friend was so conservative she thought not only sex should be reserved for marriage but didnt’ even believe in kissing! She is now active sexually…with a guy she has dated over a year. Another friend started having sex…this one because she developed a drinking habit in college. Another friend had sex because after hearing how practically every one of her friends were having sex decided the pressure of when and who and being a virgin was just more than she wanted to deal with and decided to have sex to “cross it off her to do list” so she didn’t have to worry about it anymore. A fair number of her friends have not had sex so not “everyone” is having sex. But those are the various reasons of those that have.</p>