<p>I understand it must be difficult to be divorced, but you did chose to have children with your ex, so he must have some redeeming qualities. :)</p>
<p>You may get further by approaching him as the father of your children, and as someone who is always going to be important to them, rather than as " an idiot", no matter what satisfaction you get out of thinking of him that way.
Try to think about the big picture, stay away from petty insults.</p>
<p>While I may tell you he is an idiot I have approached him about this before in a nice way. He has decided to choose his lifestyle with his new wife over his children and there is not much I can do. One of the main reasons that we got divorced is we disagree on how to spend our money. I like to spend it on the children as well as put some away for retirement. He likes to spend it on kayaks and other things. Over the years there have been various expenses for the children that he did not want to pay. However he did so because otherwise I would take him to court.
My sons top college requires the FAFSA and the CSS profile from both parents(even though his college is not on the list of colleges that require the CSS).
We have plenty of backup schools. I just posted this question because he wanted to know.
He has an IEP. Thanks for the tip on TRIO , I will check that out.</p>
<p>You have asked a legitimate question and have been gone after unjustly. Unfortunately the new spouse of the ex husbands financial information is necessary for CSS profile schools to determine and award needs based aid. It is sad that anyone much less a parent would not strive to make this information available to assist their child. You shouldn’t have to fight in this manor to have these opportunities be available for your children.
Wishing you good luck!</p>
<p>My ex has made a similar choice regarding new wife over kids – but that has not stopped me from continuing to approach him about what is in the kids’ best interest. Sometimes he responds and sometimes he doesn’t but I keep trying. I was pleasantly surprised when he offered some financial support for D2’s college (he didn’t help a bit for D1). We will see if he keeps the commitment he made for all four years for D2 (he did the first year), but who knows what the next 3 years will bring.</p>
<p>But as pointed out to you above, if your ex participates in the process at all for the CSS school he has to provide his tax returns. They will indicate that he is married, and the school will then expect his wife’s information to be included. You want to make sure he understands (1) the information they provide is completely private from you and your kid, (2) if he doesn’t provide it the school likely will not provide any need based aid for your kid, and (3) he is in no way obligating himself legally to pay whatever the school expects in family contribution by providing their information – but the school requires the information to decide if they (the school) will put any money into the pot for your kid’s education.</p>
<p>My suggestion is to try to get him through the process with that information. Once the school comes back with an FA offer, discuss it with him and ask if he can help with any of the family contribution portion. If he won’t, then you either need to shoulder it yourself or your son needs to go to a different school.</p>
<p>Most Profile schools will require submission of tax returns at some point. As noted upstream, he will either be filing married filing jointly, or married filing separately. Either way, MARRIED will be noted, and if no financial info is included about his spouse on his Profile, it is highly likely the school will inquire. But that is how they will know he is married.</p>
<p>It is possible that the school only requires Profile for Year 1 - that may be why it is not on the CSS list. You might check the school’s website to find out. At least if that is the case, and if your S goes to that school, you’ll know you won’t have to go through this again. :)</p>
<p>God I wish these posts were numbered! </p>
<p>OP, does the school require the Profiel, or not? The only place to know for sure is to check the college website for required financial aid submissions. The list on the College Board website is sometimes not accurate/updated. </p>
<p>If the school does NOT require the Profile, then you have no issue. </p>
<p>If the school does require the Profile, and requires the NCP Profile (some Profile schools do NOT require the NCP form), then the above advice holds. Spouse info must be included.</p>
<p>TRIO employee here. SSS (TRIO’s undergrad branch) works primarily with low income/first generation college students. Unless you’re talking about a school with a very large number of LD students from low income families, I doubt you’ll find much programming for disabilities beyond what is required by law, and any university will provide that. You are much better off with an established “program” designed for specific LDs</p>
<p>I attended a TRIO program recently at a local community college and while I did qualify for services through disability services, the atmosphere and support services in TRIO felt more accessible and it worked better for me.
It would depend on what your needs are, but it was nice to have both TRIO & disability services for support.</p>
<p>TRIO definitely varies from school to school. The program with which I am most familiar is for first-generation, first-time in college students - and only those who applied by a certain time, were accepted into the program, and completed a summer bridge program.</p>
<p>Im pretty sure the OP meant it was not well indicated the college required PROFILE, meaning they looked, but it was either not stated anywhere, or hidden. I had the same issue a few times, even when checking through college board. </p>
<p>You need to look on the college websites in the financial aid area. Usually there is a section on applying for financial aid, and there is a link for prospective students that spells out each requirement and what the date is for them. I found last year that for some schools it was confusing what tax forms they actually wanted (eg, did they need trust tax returns? Turns out some did, some didn’t…), but whether they needed the CSS Profile was quite clear on the school website. I would rely on the school website, not the list provided by College Board – the college is the definitive place to find out.</p>