This is how I picture my college experience over the next 4 years… makes me sad and I was never even told the “best 4 years of your life” fantasy thing
Here is an article on maintaining friendships: https://psychcentral.com/lib/the-care-and-maintenance-of-friendship/
Agree. Join a club or activity to have the opportunity to meet and spend time with people outside of class.
It’s a sad thing to experience, and it’s happening to me too right now. I have good friends from high school who I want to meet up with before I go back later this month. Unfortunately, some of them don’t even respond to me no matter how many times I ask them. Sometimes, they’re just too busy to respond, or they just don’t want to answer. Whatever the case is, I always have other friends to talk and hang out with.
I think the best thing for you to do is join a club or activity and spend time with people like what @TQfromtheU said. My school is made up of a lot of cliques, and I find myself traveling between two: one of residents and one of commuters (and they’re both Asian LOL). However, with this, I also lose time with both groups.
For you, find things to talk about with people that doesn’t revolve around schoolwork. What are their interests, hobbies, etc.? How is life at home? Things like that.
There’s a lot of truth in what @preppedparent said, stay true to the people who care about you the most, mainly your close friends and family.
I can’t really speak from experience, but take into heart what the other posters said. But I hope this helped and best of luck!
I’m sort of in the same boat, except it’s been like that my whole life since kindergarten. A lot of it was self-inflicted but some of it really just couldn’t be helped. And at least people view you as a friend, even if it’s of the fair weather variety. The so-called friends I have/had (more like acquaintances) view me as little more than a burden to tolerate and put up with. Oh and I agree that my College are not the best four years of my life. If anything it’s worse than high school. I don’t know about you but my campus is littered with as many cliques, mean girls, and jerk jocks/bros as high school.
As far as advice goes, in addition to what everyone else has given you, I’d say that if you feel your options are exhausted, I’d say stop chasing something you can’t reach and either put all your focus on academics (which is what I mostly do), listen to upbeat or soothing music, or join an online forum that either has something you’re interested in or for support.