“Grade deflation” at Wellesley - which was actually more of a forced curve and not literally grade deflation - was removed as a policy…4 years ago I believe? So I am not sure why you are still hearing about it? My first year is having a wonderful experience there. Definitely no grade issues and has made so many wonderful friends.
She was so thrilled to meet like minded friends and did immediately bond with them and their dorm community - but she says all the groups of friends overlap and are inclusive. Hard to say, I imagine every school has cliques if that is another way of saying friend groups?
I am sorry you have heard so many negative things. My daughter and her friends’ experiences are very positive. I think when it fits is really fits and when it doesn’t, it really doesn’t. That is why it is good you are doing such thorough research.
Congratulations on your great acceptances!