<p>Calmom’s point about going back to original sources is well taken. Otherwise, one could end up with an interpretation as overblown as the one below, which inflates my original post rather wildly. She somehow has decided (and writes that) my daughter is:</p>
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<p>I am not sure where in the original source (my first post) she found the implied and prolonged effort of “mulling over” or the supposed “managing” to find. I recommend she revisit the original source, as her “emotional memory” of the posting has led her to make a comment that is rather condescending and HIGHLY inaccurate: the verb phrases used suggest that my daughter’s explicit goal is to use extended periods of time (“mull over”) to discover that which will allow her to to enjoy a certain victimhood, especially an unjustified victimhood (“manages to find a way…”)</p>
<p>Again: the phrasing does matter.</p>
<p>And, by the way: The final paragraph of the Barnard rejection letter is/was not a “gratuitous” line. It is one-third of the rejection letter. If it IS gratuitous, that begs the question of why the admissions office is giving so little thought to the letter it is sending out to literally thousands of girls who have/had, at least as of late March, warm and positive feelings for Barnard.</p>