<p>i’m a girl. for some reason, i only find guys of equal or greater intelligence attractive. i’m horrible; the hottest guy could walk right in front of me, but with a less than impressive iq, he might as well be a rat or a butterfly. heehee…butterflies…</p>
<p>so yea. CC girls are pretty much doomed to spinsterhood.</p>
<p>reminds me of one time in debate. i do lincoln douglas- good trappings here. Anyway, i once debated this guy who absolutely blew me away. If only he were not by far the most hideous creature i’d ever seen, i might have seriously been interested him…believe me i tried; i’d go for any moderately ugly guy so long as he was smart…</p>
<p>I was “together” in the long-term with a guy who was less intelligent, but a really nice and good-looking guy. Although we were together for six months, it got difficult because I didn’t feel comfortable discussing academic topics with him - our conversations were pretty one-sided, although I learned never to discount the insights of someone you perceive as “dumber.” But for a formalized relationship, I’d prefer someone equally smart or (preferably) more intelligent than I am - it’d give me an ego trip just by being with someone insanely smart.</p>
<p>And I’d choose the short, Princeton guy - but hey, I’m only 5’4 myself. :)</p>
<p>yes i would date her as long as she’s not stupid. it’s just that girls who have substance have a different aura about them, and that’s why i find them more attractive. i think i care more about their self-confidence more than anything else. it has to be hard-earned self-confidence, though, not just a fake. when it borders around conceit, then that’s how i can tell. what turns me off is the self-conscious, puppy-eye look, which i think is suggestive of an airy head. the same rule applies for dating people of the same sex. overall, he or she has to be simplistic and worldly…i care more about those things than intelligence. people who feel like they have to prove their intelligence or who are overly concerned about it turn me off because i feel like their intelligence is not second nature to them.</p>
<p>well that was rather simplistic and one-sided of me. it’s true; i’m rarely attracted to dumber guys, and much more often to smarter guys.
what i really go for though is a somehow less tangible quality, perhaps greater maturity, depth, spirituality. And more oftenly, that accompanies intelligence. I have found it in a select few people of average, particularly below average intelligence too though.<br>
In smarter individuals, it produces a jaded effect.
In people who aren’t all there intellectually, it’s harder to describe, i guess both wise and naive at once. Naive in regards to the mundane, wise concerning the extramundane. This is very rare. I can only think of one person like this.
I go for any of the two, but the latter of this group is a lot more delicate, and it often feels as though you might break them or offend them by being too cynical. Cynicism, though, is ultimately something that smart people use to protect the idealistic, and thus more vulnerable aspects of their personalities.</p>
<p>sorry for million posts.
i guess, as a final thought, that i’m attracted to people at opposite ends of the intellectual spectrum. people in the middle, and ESPECIALLY those of slightly above average intelligence, really annoy me.
the moderately smart ones seem to think that they’re the best, that ultimately everything boils down to intellectual hierarchy, feel threatened by those above them and make these people’s lives miserable in retaliation, and show condescension for anyone below them.
this is of course a gross generalization, but i’ve encountered a lot of this so…
i admit to buying into this sort of mindset myself though. it’s really hard not to when you hang around a bunch of silly IB overachievers. Pathetic, 'cause i can recall being the object of their contempt at BOTH ends.</p>
<p>ontolome, I agree with what you said about the moderately smart ones. Especially the intellectual posers. They just tick me off to no end. I’m usually attracted to natural people, but I tend to change my mind quickly about what I feel.</p>
<p>:-/ I think the only time I liked someone smarter than me was just because he’d had more school than I did at the time, so I’m not sure if that counts. I just like nice, sweet people. I mean, it’s high school. No life changes, really.</p>
<p>…heh. I like this thread. I’m a girl, and I’m really fickle when it comes to guys I like- one day, I like them, then I decide they’re too short, or they something really ignorant, or I notice someone better ;)…other times, I totally fall in love with guys I hated on first impressions.</p>
<p>But as far as intelligence goes…heh, my ego coming out a little…it’s hard to find smarter guys in my area :P…Yes, I would, and have, dated guys not as smart as me.</p>
<p>I would date a smarter guy with a nice personality, as long as he’s not caring “smart” to geek level. I think there are plenty of decent, moderate-to-high intelligence with great personalities- heck, that’s who I usually end up with. Just as long as they can carry a conversation and they’re romantic and not sleazy :)</p>
<p>5’6" and smart is the better choice, imo. I’m right about 5’5", so he might be a little shorter than the usual guy, but it could work- i just wouldn’t heels for a while :)</p>
<p>6’ is WAY too tall for me. I’m 5’2"–but I’m still growing!–and I don’t like standing near people who are more than about 6 or 7 inches taller than me. So, I’d go for the shorter guy even if he wasn’t smarter.</p>
<p>having grown sick of the ploys of idiotic guys, i vowed last year to only date the smart ones. i tend to be attracted to intelligence anyway, so it works out. if a guy is smart, it makes him so much more attractive to me.</p>
<p>well, i can hardly factor a quadratic equation, if that’s what you have in mind
english, history, philosophy are my fortes…
i’d be willing to bet that this is true of many girls, vs. boys etc.</p>
<p>how do you judge how “smart” someone is anyway? if they have a comprable SAT score? I mean come on. This is rediculous. Common interests, the ability to hold meaningful, interesting conversations, and forming a good connection with somebody are the basis of a relationship - not “how smart they are”</p>
<p>Hey, not all smart girls are ugly, you know! At my school, most of the smart girls are pretty. And don’t say I only think so because I’m used to uglyness, because I’m not.</p>
<p>true. if good genes make themselves evident in one way, then chances are they’ve kicked in elsewhere. i was referring though to CC girls’ high expectations for their men. They’re already brilliant themselves; the chances of finding someone smarter are slim.
As per not going into philo in college because of mathematic ineptitude/phobia…i’ll suffer through whatever math i have to; philo has been my all-engrossing passion since middle school, and its continental forms are already to me a no-brainer. analytic methods will just have to wait. it can’t have all been for nothing! (sorry for sounding like a pompous idiot)</p>
<p>Girls may say that wouldn’t date a dumb guy, but believe me, if Orlando Bloom was a complete dunce, they’d still swoon over him. It’s innate. The animals don’t take intelligence into account.</p>
(sorry for sounding like a pompous idiot)</p>