Would you date someone who is not as smart as you?

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<p>Quoting Thewildflower</p>

<p>Interesting question.</p>

<p>I’m sort of in the “slightly above average” level in terms of scholastic intelligence…(meaning, no, I don’t take 50 APs each semester, but yea I have a good GPA and am getting straight As with one or two challenging classes). I think I would like to date someone at the same level as my intelligence or a bit more, but if they were smarter, I would hope they wouldn’t be egomaniacal about it, but it would be cool because we would be able to have intelligent conversations…and hell I could LEARN from them.</p>

<p>I just can’t stand dating morons, though. I mean…they seem to have no substance. But then again, I am looking for intelligence more in terms of moral and values and ideas rather than “Mmm yes I am 1st in my class and going to Harvard…”</p>

<p>Its not like I would want someone who can prove they are better than me in, say, Physics or something…but someone who is creatively smart and well-read…who I can discuss things we both are passionate about with - Hunter S. Thompson, the history of the counterculture, Emerson, Thoreau, Fitzgerald, literary symbolism, music history, their OPINIONS about themselves, society, others, and morals - that kind of intelligence is much more valuble, and if you wanna talk about those kinds of smarts, then yes, I want someone smart, at least as smart as me in that area so we could mesh well.</p>

<p><em>sigh</em>…a guy like that with long hair would be just awesome. "</p>

<p>I’m a guy and I agree with you in just about every aspect. I actually with exactly what you said. Like flower, I’m in the same ruberic of intelligence as her. Straight A’s which I DESPISE those ostentaitous schmucks like the Harvard she mentioned. </p>

<p>Now I’m going to say what I look for in a girl, which will more than likely be a copy of flower’s, but a different gender:</p>

<p>When I look at a girl, I’m not going lie, their skin does make a difference. I know I sound shallow saying this, but if you knew me, you’d know I wasn’t.</p>

<p>Now, when I say a girl of the same intelligence, I don’t mean school intelligence. Take a homecoming date of mine for example. She was the quintessential blonde, the Ding E (sorry, can’t remember the spelling and if you can provide the right spelling, please tell me) as any dormant doorknob imagineable, which I hate. I talked to her for maybe 5 minutes and know full well I couldn’t stand her. The thing about her was she was taking quite a few more harder classes than me, but her common sense level was almost like it was a seesaw of knowledge. Her school smarts were like the 50 pound kid at recess while her street smarts was the fat oaf with fudgesickle stains on his shirt. When guys see her, it never fails them commenting of how beautiful she is, and to me, she’s nothing special.</p>

<p>When I look at a girl, I want one who can maintain a conversation about my interest. I have found none in my grade who can extend beyond the “Hey’s” exchanged. I generally like women who are older than me just because I’ve always been able to have a conversation with. The opposite day talks was left at the door in elementary for me.</p>

<p>I guess I’m just a hopeless romantic as I was once labeled. :(</p>

<p>And flower, I have long hair :slight_smile: (not like mullet long, but shaggy)</p>

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that’s a little self-centered…
or maybe I’m interpreting it wrong…</p>

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<p>Oyi, that did sound very wrong. No interpreting wrong, it twas my bad.</p>

<p>I didn’t mean like that (man I should really proofread) I mean just someone who I share some interests in and can talk to overall. </p>

<p>Gah I feel like a moron after that <strong>hangs head in shame</strong></p>

<p>Oh Boy, re reading my main post it really makes me sound bad. Dad gummit :frowning: I’ve never even kissed a girl before!</p>

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<p>I’d consider it… but I’d rather date someone intelligent. Someone who I could hold a conversation about literary works with would be great. Except, even though I’m not picky, I don’t think a science guy would like me too much, lol.</p>

<p>I think I love learning too much for anyone but a smart person to appreciate.</p>

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<p>I’d date someone who wasn’t as intelligent as I am, some smarts go beyond the measure of Academic standards. As long as he wasn’t vain, completely ditsy, or vulgar. I would prefer him to be adventurous though. The ability to appreciate nature/culture wouldn’t hurt. Just because you’re smart doesn’t mean that you have a interesting personality.</p>

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<p>yeah, I would, although I tend to like girls that are considered pretty damn smart. but then, usually I don’t like girls that are smarter than I am haha :P:P all the girls I liked are slightly less smart (don’t wanna say dumb, or…unintelligent) than me =P </p>

<p>I think as long as one can hold a conversation with the other and there can be a mutual understanding of each other, then it should be fine, right?</p>

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<p>I’m a guy who attends SDSU. Earlier in this thread, someone was referring to a guy from Princeton as smart and witty and a guy from SDSU as dumb. </p>

<p>Then again anyone who makes a poll as stupid as that, I question their street smarts. You could have just made a random poll with a dumb guy A. and a smart guy B., but instead you had to stereotype all the guys at the two schools based on that schools reputation, or atleast your concieved reputation of the school. </p>

<p>I suppose I take offense to that. </p>

<p>The question you should be asking yourself is would the guy at SDSU date you? Doubt it.</p>

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<p>I’d date someone who was less intelligent than I if they can make up for it in other ways. Like maybe a really good “common sense man” or a great “navigator” etc… However I would much much prefer a commanding, assured, intelligent boy (shaggy hair is very nice too!) : )</p>

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<p>I would, and it wouldn’t bother me much. All I want is sincerity and loyalty. Oh, and good looks. =)</p>

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<p>Ah, such a good quote. Ditto.</p>

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<p>I’d date someone less intelligent than I am. I mean, honestly, most of us at CC are the cream of the crop, so it WOULD be a bit difficult to find someone on the same level, at least in high school. But really, who would want to date someone solely based on their IQ? There’s this boy who I’m…in love with, I guess you could say. ( I know that high school love is sort of oxymoronic, but if you want the complete story, PM me and I’ll tell you everything ) He’s not brilliant, but he’s one of the best persons you’ll ever meet, and there are very few people out there that’ll ever be able to find much wrong with him. He’ll never be able to get into HYPMS, but what do I care about that? He’s great and sincere and funny, and that’s more than enough for me.</p>

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<p>I’d prefer to date a woman who is as smart, almost as smart or smarter than I am. But I’d date a less intelligent woman, if she is very open-minded (on the other hand, I have noticed usually comes with intelligence), then I’d love to spend time with her. </p>

<p>I wouldn’t want to date somebody with a wonderful mind, but on the other hand, is so narrow-minded that she becomes horribly egotistical or acts stupid due to a lack of depth in personality. </p>

<p>I’d want to date somebody I could have an intelligent, deep, humorous conversation with. Oh yea… and from experience with others…</p>

<p>Somebody who likes to argue for sport.</p>

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<p>I think it would be really hard, for me , to be able to stand a conversation with a person thats less smart than I am, much less date her. I would get bored and we’d probably share few if any interests.</p>

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<p>It would be hard for me but i could always talk about the common stuff. As long as the person understands my jokes i wouldn’t mind.</p>

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<p>I would but its different for me b/c im a in the closet smart kid. Im not into the usual smart kid stuff like star wars or w/e but i still do like girls who at least have the grades to get into a college. And i hate the ditsy girls who act dumb 4 attention</p>

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<p>Yes. I’m basically only REALLY into girls who are as smart or smarter than myself. Besides, the other dumb blonde stereotype girls already have boyfriends.</p>

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<p>I am definitely more attracted by people who are as smart/smarter than me. Guys who fail or dont study…uhh it just irritates me. Im a girl, btw. Looks + Intellect is better than one alone although intellect may be more important to me…a bit more.</p>

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<p>I have problems with people who aren’t as smart as me…I don’t know why. I just really get irritated by those who fail or come to class late, only to go to sleep…I also cannot stand when someone doesn’t know something incredibly basic or when someone makes says something like, " Me and her went to the mall." It really annoys me; I would only be able to tolerate someone who is smart.</p>

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<p>to sum it up, my reputation is that of “the smartest girl/person” that most people in my school know. Really it is just that I enjoy learning for the sake of it, and I am hard-pressed to find anyone (except at CC) who is like me. I would certainly date someone who seems less intelligent than people think I am, but not if the guy is either a) at total airhead or b)a smart kid who won’t apply himself. Those people really bug, right up there with the girls who have affected ditzy voices. :D</p>

<p>CoolaTrooper…I’m with you; I love to argue for the fun of it:)</p>

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<p>Arguing is always fun…except in debate class when the students vote for the other person because he/she only said several things that made no sense, so you ripped apart the argument…Apparently, they don’t know that debating entails discrediting the opposition’s argument…:frowning:
They also like to vote for the other person if you use words that they don’t understand (including common words)…</p>