No, I don’t wish to cut him off. I want him in our lives. I want my husband who is a tender and dear man to have his son. I’m having a hard time dealing with the emotions of how much his son is hurting him right now. I want the best for all of our children. I’m gaining a great deal of perspective that I hadn’t considered in some of the responses and finding it very helpful. I do agree with most that the child is less to blame that the parent allowing it to happen.