Thank you for your thoughts. I came well after the divorce. My husband is a loving nurturing man, he dotes on his children and they never have a want that is not met…we’ve are not trying to be the brady bunch, we want to spend time with him when he was here (not in his room) and we want to maintain our ethics and values in raising our children. We let him sleep in to reasonable hours, he had alone time, he had time with Dad…we are good parents. I so appreciate you response and your hugs…blending families is so difficult.